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I m what I spill here, 80% truth from the heart, I m who I am with another 20% of secrets I keep to myself... 这里吐的就是80%真实的我,另外20%的秘密建设了真正的我。。。

Saturday, September 30, 2006

Teaching of God

What have religions got to do to our life?
What have it done to influence people's thinking?
Some have their mind set (hard heads!) that the only teaching that is right always drop down to the religion that they have choose. Is it really all? Have god really written down what is going to happen from before till the end of time?
if the only teaching of god is right what have one done to achieve in life, other then follow blindly to what is written down by god.
as a free thinker I do agree that there is need of religion for some people as a guide but not as a stick to the blind (means following it blindly). Message should be interpret before agree (cause it wont apply to all), question it other then just receiving.
I found this message damn true, found from a movie call "save" (it is a Christian base movie, but the message it try to tell is damn fucking true).

"if god wanted every individual to act the same, why have he/she create every individual differently? He/she must wanted an individual to live life to the fullest, his/her saying is to guide so that us as his/her child wont get lost on the path of life"

Thursday, September 28, 2006

is negotiation an option?

actually this is a report i done for my group assignment (read between the lines but it is quite clear most ppl will get it... i think) oh ya for this assignement we needed to come up with a video (a short clip / drama), and this video is about negotiation.

The topic this time is negotiation, this is use every where and almost every time, from a family, a child bargain extension for his curfew, students asking the teachers or lecturers to extend the deadline, employees talking to their boss for adding salary or promotion, even in a kindergarten, kids use candy to negotiate for a toy etc. by not noticing it we uses negotiation all the time.

The outcome of the negotiation sure will determine which side is winning or losing, and it will break down to 3 result, for the first harmony result, both party wins what we call as a win win situation, both side have some benefit and both party is satisfy, the other will be lose win, where one party will gain benefits form the bargain and the other will lose something this makes one side happy and the other not, lose lose situation is when both side have lost no one wins but there is too a situation where it is call a tie but this shows that the negotiation isn’t complete because a out come isn’t set.

For this topic we are divided into groups and shoot a video that relate to the topic, there is 2 scenario for us to choose and we have chosen exercise one where a creative director and her junior designer have a conflict and negotiate how should the problem being solve. First the misunderstanding, quarrel (conflict), and the negotiation the process to find a solution, or path to determine the responsible.

How conflict starts? A lot of facts actually helps creating misunderstanding, when communication isn’t properly done, when there is noise (interruption) where one is using a media to communicate to the other, the other party may misinterpreted a word and the whole conversation will mean differently, or when there is no communication, this is always the problem people face, no communication even with the closes as ones parents this is just partly facts that lead to miscommunication. Other then noise there is too the basic fault most people will do, assumptions, “I assume that I have told you all what to do” (but no part of you all disagree with that, from here who is right and wrong) “writing / remembering down the wrong facts” form all here the worst is being a hard head, stubborn mistaken but will not admit it, this is the worst of all conflict.

What conflict got to do with negotiation? A way of explaining it is to solve a problem in a more civil way; this is how man uses this to avoid violence that may create unwilling result to any party. In the other way of looking at it, it is still a mini war going on in a room on a table maybe but without involving any cats fights, fires, weapons etc the only thing uses is the mouth and “fight” for it to determine who is the winner or loser.

This is a story that most students or sons and daughter will say even employees, when people is in need to the other party, sons and daughter that is still living with their parents and using their money, students that wanted to pass, employees that needed the job sometimes negotiation isn’t something they can “afford” why say so? A son and daughter will get grounded in certain circumstances, students may got bar or fail by the teacher or lecturer and employees they may put their family in line by getting fire means no money for dinner (well so far from here it is the value people have in mind so far, that’s why a lot of people chicken out, and too them negotiations isn’t an option). Well it is always unfair to certain groups of people it never will.

Back to the assignment, for our character (pick by a draw) yours truly as the junior designer, Cindy as the creative director, LiuBin as the CEO of the company, Hazrool as Cindy’s secondary, Jesslyn as the busybody coworker, and finally Nurool as the client. Well as I have mention on top the story flows accordingly to what I have just stated, there is some misunderstanding, the creative director ask the junior designer to come up with a big presentation in a weeks time but have no time to pay any attention to the junior designer when he approach her for consultation, without the creative director’s help and advice the junior director that just got onto his post have no idea on what she have to do. Just like what I said earlier assumptions, humans like to make assumptions (personally I hated that), using words like “I assume you know” so whose fault is it? The junior designer didn’t push hard enough? Or the creative director that is too busy with her meetings and other projects?

Here the negotiation seems more like a blaming section to point fingers on who is right or wrong and how the people in it work it out for a better or worst. For this scenario the creative director and the junior designer debate in front of a “judge” here is something indirectly negotiating for their future in the job, who will the “judge” feel not good enough or responsible for the incomplete work. Here it indirectly shows the ugly side of human for surviving – in the work place, the junior who is in the low hierarchy will try to pull down the creative director and in the opposite the creative director will just want to swallow the low rank guy up. But in certain circumstances it may turn out pretty, where they work things out together like a professionals leaving hard feelings behind (seriously how many professionals are professionals but no act like one?).

The outcome is not always predictable, who will win the ugly (although civil it is still ugly) battle in pride (show the truth nothing but the truth) or in shame (make things up, just to murder the other party) it is unclear to others. Because of this unclear ugly world of truth although I m straight and clear to people that is in the same hierarchy but still no hard feelings but when it comes to a more superior party I guess mostly I just chicken out, in this phase I m not committing suicide yet.

actually i didnt post up the ending for our story, but if any one wanted to know just ask.

this is dedicated to a person from a higher hierarchy.

p.s. i maybe updating the pic for the video shoot if possible.

Saturday, September 09, 2006

Light up!!

I just don't understand how certain groups of individuals think, I meet some of these individuals that kinda love making others life looks like carp, wont be happy if others is, is it how they think? I don't really know but this is just patheticly sick! When I work at a event organizing company I seen some people like this, they complain for certain small speck of things, create big chaos and act like kindergarten uneducated child (even a child think better, see last blog), and they should be 10 years older then me or more! Other then working there is too some people I know that pop up I m live. As what I always say don't make assumptions when you are not good at observation, and this always causes misunderstood or PAIN IN THE ASSS, sigh people that have bald their heads acting like teenages that never have seen the world, love, relationship and live anit just what meet the eye, some are just to shallow to look deep.

Friday, September 08, 2006

Even the children know better

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,
"What does love mean?"
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.
See what you think:

"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore.
So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
Rebecca- age 8

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.
You just know that your name is safe in their mouth."
Billy - age 4

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."
Karl - age 5

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs."
Chrissy - age 6

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri - age 4

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
Danny - age 7

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.
My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss"
Emily - age 8

"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
Bobby - age 7 (Wow!)

"If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,"
Nikka - age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet)

"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
Noelle - age 7

"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
Tommy - age 6

"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."
Cindy - age 8

"My mommy loves me more than anybody
You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."
Clare - age 6

"Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken."
Elaine-age 5

"Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt."
Chris - age 7

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
Mary Ann - age 4

"I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones."
Lauren - age 4

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." (what an image)
Karen - age 7

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
Jessica - age 8

And the final one -- Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge.
The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.

Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,

"Nothing, I just helped him cry"

Saturday, September 02, 2006

Indulge by the raw culture and nature

Kelantan, is where i m born, a not so develop town, and maybe because of this it is one of its beauty, and the other way it is the ungly side, people here cloze themselve up and think this is all in the world... sad...
but hack lets see what is so beautiful of this state.
one of the beauty is the central market (Pasar Siti Kahidja), where fresh fruits, vegies etc other then foods there is too some cultural art work like batik etc

the colors of kelantan (the name of the cloth is Batik)

Frsh vegies for sale~

Siti Khadijah form the top

There is a tradisional public trasportation that we use to see around Malaysia, but it is getting less

other then that the raw beach - tok bali, even the locals dont know about this place, cause it is far from the Kota Bharu town, it takes about 2 hours to get there.

ya it is my home town, love it always, hate it always..

(Pictures taken by Raziel -- ME)